I give you thanks for receiving, it's my privilege

One little song has become my Spiritual path.

It is totally complete, nothing else needed.

Pure Zen.

Quite challenging work for a guy who has many times in his life experienced the self inflicted pain of jealously. As the young Stewart, I was always searching for that one person to complete me. Once I began to love myself, I was rewarded with the gift of the first requirement for loving others. Wow! No one is needed to complete Stewart but Stewart . This self acceptance enabled me share Stewart with another. This has worked out so much better, making the second half of my life journey so much more fun and rewarding than the first.

Alanis Morissette

sang on her album

Under Rug Swept

that

You Owe Me Nothing In Return

I'll give you countless amounts of outright acceptance if you

want it

I will give you encouragement to choose the path that you want

if you need it

You can speak of anger and doubts your fears and freak outs and

I'll hold it

You can share your so-called shame filled accounts of times in

your life and I won't judge it

(and there are no strings attached to it)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have

I give you thanks for receiving it's my privilege

And you owe me nothing in return

You can ask for space for yourself and only yourself and I'll

grant it

You can ask for freedom as well or time to travel and you'll

have it

You can ask to live by yourself or love someone else and I'll

support it

You can ask for anything you want anything at all and I'll

understand it

(and there are no strings attached to it)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have

I give you thanks for receiving it's my privilege

And you owe me nothing in return

I bet you're wondering when the next payback shoe will

eventually drop

I bet you're wondering when my conditional police will force

you to cough up

I bet wonder how far you have now danced you way back into

debt

This is the only kind of love as I understand it that there

really is

You can express your deepest of truths even if it means I'll

lose you and I'll hear it

You can fall into the abyss on your way to your bliss I'll

empathize with

You can say that you have to skip town to chase your passion

I'll hear it

You can even hit rock bottom have a mid-life crisis and I'll

hold it

(and there are no strings attached)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have

I give you thanks for receiving it's my privilege

And you owe me nothing in return

I have long wondered what inspired her to write this song. Mitch Schneider a former Rolling Stone writer quotes Alanis Morissette on his Publicity Firms website:

"The heart of that song is about the real definition of what love is. And what love is to me is wanting for someone that you love what they want for themselves. And at the same time not sacrificing my own life and my thoughts and my own beliefs. Supporting someone in their choices and at the same time being able to express what mine are, even if they differ, is the ultimate healthy, loving interaction. And there were a few lyrics that I changed in the song because it was kind of hinting at myself sacrificially, loving someone at the cost of myself, which is definitely not the case and really not the sentiment that I was trying to get across in the song. So, having changed some of the lines that were kind of hinting at that, the song finally addressed what I was trying to communicate, which is: the highest form of love is to really listen to someone and honor them and accept them and have my own version and definition of who it is that I am. And if they can both cohabitate or spend time together or feel compatible, great. And if they don't, that's okay too--there's still a lotta love--but maybe the form of the relationship would change."

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